Monday, October 10, 2005

weight watchers!

The whole bunch of us, the kids along with the respective other halves went to pick up mom and dad at the airport. I and my half were late, as usual. The plane was late too, thankfully.

I wore low waist tight jeans and a little top to show off the 4 kilos I shed. Nobody mentioned a thing. All hands sprung to pick up bags welcomingly heavy with food. Later at dinner, bro-in-law, who sees me often mentioned that I have put on a little weight "too much relaxing, huh?" I protested and turned to hubby for support. Dear hubs didn't disappoint me.

"No, no, she's knocked off a few kilos. Check her arms. They are slimmer. The gym is doing her good."

Everybody turns to look at me. Nobody says anything. Bro-in-law tries to prove himself right. "Okay, maybe the body is slimmer. But the cheeks look puffier. They are hanging."

I am not deterred. I pick up my share of goodies. Mom's delicious chocolate cake, laddoos, roasted cashewnuts, dried wild berries from my childhood, and loads of pickles. Hubby lends an assuring hand. At home, he decides the top I wore was wrong. It stiffly stood out and made me look a little 'wide'.

Yesterday, we had one of those mega family lunches at sis's place. I arrived cleverly dressed and remembered to suck in my tummy most of the time. After lunch, I sprawled on the sofa, just in time for dad to comment, "you are getting fat."

"Et tu, dad?"

Sis giggled her guts out and quipped "she's going to the gym regularly, you see!"

"Aah, then you must work a little harder." concluded dad. I made a 10 year old face and just stopped short of sticking out my tongue.

That's it. I decided, the members of the treacherous family are not worth my sweat. Okay, I will still sweat. But will wear a bedsheet or a burkha when I meet them next, to show my indifference. What do they know of triceps and the proteins contained in soy milk? What do they know of burning 300 calories after breathlessly pounding the treadmill for 30 agonizing minutes?

Anyway, Dad doesn't even understand why girls remove paint from their nails just to paint them again.


Blogger Under the Spell said...

I empathise with you completely..i'm going to visit my family this month after a long time and i'm sure my weight will fuel many conversations. I've learned over the years that your weight will never be a source of satisfation for your family, but will most definitely be a source of critique. If you've piled on the pounds "you look too chubby", and if you've lost weight, "you look too pale and weak, you were just fine the way you were!!" truly there's no way to pleasing these weight watchers..

2:04 am  
Anonymous Ash said...

I know exactly how you feel !! I know for a fact taht I've lost some wight over the months ... and eveytime I send some photos home, instea dof commenting on how neautiful NY looks, or how much fun Florida look, my dad has to say " You've put on weight" ! Gaaah !

4:26 am  
Blogger shub said...


6:07 am  
Blogger n.g. said...

yes, i never could understand what THAT was all about. i mean, women spend serious money for something that gets the damn nail polish off, only to put it back on again. wha?

9:29 am  
Blogger AmitL said...

Hi,Anumita..don't get put off by what even family members say..not many people have perfected the art of constructive criticism.So,a simple'You look really fit' would be much better,na?I hear such sentences day in n day out,so,am immune to them...out here,it's just a way for people to start a conversation,and hide their own obesity,perhaps.LOL..:)Finally,it's how I feel about my body that matters.:)Who're others to comment?In fact,I nearly asked someone'Excuse me,are you related to me?How does it matter to you whether I am thin or obese?',but,courtesy prompted me to just say'SO?'..

10:16 am  
Blogger Arundhati said...


10:41 am  
Anonymous author by the brook said...

honey we riding to mumbai the last week of Oct.. hope you guys will be free.. :) let us know if you have any plans.. :)


1:05 pm  
Anonymous author by the brook said...

and if your folks are there then.. it will be great meeting them.. :)


1:06 pm  
Blogger Swathi said...

dad n nail polishes one was real good :))

n do they make all the BILs at the same factory???
even my BIL says the same thing to me always 'I think u have put on a lille weight'
n then my sister goes ....' u look so fat that ppl will mistake u to b pregnant'
n I wail out like a baneshee... gosh i hate these comments

2:43 pm  
Anonymous Kahini said...


I know my mum is gonna SHRIEK when she sees me next month.


2:45 pm  
Blogger Raccoon said...

Damn!!! whenever I gain weight, my parents or family always say...u've become thin...u've lost weight...and my mum clucks over me whenever I make that trip to Delhi, trying to 'put me back in shape' with aloo parathas and loads of ghee sweets...!!!

that said..I frankly think Indians suck at complimenting/commenting even for the heck of it....where someone could have said - 'have you done're positively glowing'...there is a 95% chance they'll say - 'have you been ill, you look so thin and haggard'!!!!

abt the treadmill...try running faster for smaller durations of time, then slow down and sprint again - you'll lose more cals that way...i manage 200 cals in abt 13 minutes that way...:-D

2:48 pm  
Anonymous Naresh Bagmar said...

hi Anumita, i always look forward 4 ur posts..i like readin' them n u dissapoint this time either. keep posting more frequently..
baba' cheers..tcare

3:00 pm  
Anonymous Naresh bagmar said... was 'u did not disapoint this time either'

3:02 pm  
Blogger WA said...

Am I glad or am I glad that I popped by here, was having a bad day and was getting wound up over nothing and thankfully your post especially the last line made me smile. Thank You

3:45 pm  
Blogger diane said...

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4:14 pm  
Blogger paddy said...

i just dont understand what is there with the weight thing
even a hefty person looks smart if he can carry the body well.
so i give more thought to this aspect.

5:49 pm  
Blogger Jay said...

The only thing worse than not being able to lose weight is to actually lose some and still have people think you're fat.


8:24 pm  
Blogger Abhishek said...

i have big plans...every evening...that kal se i'll go for a jog @ 5.30 am...but those are only plans though.
i went for a jog in the morn in the last week.But that was interrupted due to my exams.
but yea.. 2mrw i am surely gonna go....cuz i just called ajay to ask him whether he is coming along...lets see how it works out:)...

9:35 pm  
Anonymous Melody said...

Gosh... I was always this sickly thin person in the family - never put on weight no matter how much I'd eat (yeah, people hated me for that too).

And NOW, after more than five years of trying, have FINALLY put on some weight and feeling happy about myself.

And what is the family saying??? That I'm looking nice??? Nooooooooo.... don't put on any more, they say.. Gosh you're catching up with your sister... ah-hah it's your turn to be the fat one...

Miserable. Now I understand what it's like to be on the other side of the fence.


10:37 pm  
Blogger Ad astra per aspera said...

I see you have your own bunch of 'Moti-weighters' too .
Sigh .. if you can't beat them ... Join em.
I usually start complaining ( before anyone else can) that I am putting on weight ..and then gleefully listen to everyone assuring me that I am not . ;-)
Works all the time!

11:06 pm  
Blogger kickassso said...

Funnily, Its when we're trying to show off our lost weight that people notice it the most.Another funny thing, Weight loss is not always the right thing to look for .I once lost lost four inches around da waist but lost only one kilo.:(.Fat , it seems is not quite heavy!

6:15 am  
Blogger anumita said...

under the spell: You are right. All the best and have fun with the family!

ash: Please tell me what you tell him then!

shub: :) How you doing, babes?

nish: Yu are welcome to sit with my dad and discuss.

amitl: Thank you amitl. The problem is it is the family who is the most critical. I can hardly ask them, "are you related to me?"

arundhati: Not funny, I swear.

jil: We are free, we are free. Dont think mom and dad are still going to be here. Will be great to meet you guys!

swathi: My BIL and I often discuss gym notes and try to pretend we are working out lesser than the other but toning better than the other.

kahini: Worry not. Family just wants to shriek so they do.

pranav: I know, I have known parents who call their obese children 'healthy' and feed them more. My parents fed me till I grew fat, then they started criticising me!
About the gym, calories burnt is synonymous to weight. I am not too heavy so while others walk slowly for 7 minutes and burn 100 calories, I jog and manage about 100 in 10 minutes.

naresh bagmar: Welcome and thank you very much. I will try to post more often.

wicked angel: You smiled while I am fretting here?

paddy: I know. But I just don't like being hefty.

jay: You are so right, jay! It makes me just eat and get it all back again!

abhishek: I love exercising. But getting started is indeed painful. Try dragging the friend along. It ll help.

melody: Hehehe! I know what you mean! It's really tough, balancing this weight business!

ad astra: I think that's really smart! But it will not work with the family. They will all agree whole heartedly and add insult to injury! Where have you been all this while babes?

kickassso: I think you are right. People are always surprised to hear my weight. But it's more comforting as losing weight is easier than losing inches.

10:15 am  
Anonymous colours said...

I have decided to eat only fruits until October 28-th when I meet my parents.

1:31 pm  
Anonymous sherriff said...

Too much of weight on ur mind...relax...the whole episode shud make u motivated to slog out more in't matter how much we grow...always looking for acceptance and appreciaition from near and dear ones...BTW I think most of the guys including me dont understand that Nail Polish thing

3:53 pm  
Blogger Rat said...

Does this happen in every family ? No Family gathering goes by without everyone discussing my weight for atleast ten minutes

4:23 pm  
Blogger Weary Hag said...

I felt so badly as you described the pride you felt, only to be insulted by the family. This sounds much like my own family, unfortunately.

By the way? I would have gone all the way and stuck out my tongue! Good for you to show restraint. :)

5:21 pm  
Blogger Prerona said...

this sounds like the story of my life!!! i lost 13 kilos, okay, and all my mom said next time i went home, was ebaar ektu khawa dawa control koro - boyesh hochhe - khodaar khashir moton phoolchho je ... translated: dont u think u should stop hogging like food was going extinct, ur swelling up like a lamb for the sacrifice ... which is basically a theme song for everytime she see's me after a while :(

atleast ur spared the most painfully irritating part: mamun, erokum kore khete thaakle keo biye korbe na ma.

i wont translate that

5:24 pm  
Blogger gulnaz said...

lol, totally empathasie with you!
i have put on wt recently which i am trying to shed to loving refrains of its ok, you are not that fat to you will never lose wt to even you look better now...whereas when i was slim, i was told constantly that i was fat and i even believed them and would wear loose clothes in which i obviously looked i have decided never to believe otheres with regards to my body wt! :)

1:10 am  
Blogger AmitKen said...

that was a sweet post :)

2:43 pm  
Anonymous Sudarshan said...

Nice blog..I love your style of writing!!Keep it up......

3:40 pm  
Blogger transience said...

*sigh* i don't know why some people take it upon themselves to comment every time you gain or lose weight. like it mattered like world peace or something. not that i'm not happy you didn't lose weight--it's healthy. some just never appreciate your effort. hugs, honey.

7:06 pm  
Blogger Truth Fairy said...

Lol! I hate it when it happens. And on the day you are really feeling fat and bloated, people tell you you look thin and then you wonder whether they are being truthfaul or sarcastic! I don't know why we women torture ourselves like this while the men are happy and don't carish 'bout their beer belly!

11:06 pm  
Anonymous Parmanu said...

Excuse me, but is there a "Weight Meme" going around?! Who next, I wonder...

11:23 pm  
Blogger anumita said...

colours: But it could prove fatal after the 28th when you start eating normal food! It happens with me all the time. Too much restraint makes me overeat later!

sherriff: A little honest appreciation never hurts, you know!

rat: I suggest you pay no heed. And smile sweetly :)

weary hag: The family is always there to puncture any illusions or inflated ego. And they do it with irrespective of what you feel!

Hehehe! And I won't translate it either. So typical of mothers! But 13 kilos is a grand feat! Wouldn't you disappear if you shed more?

gulnaz: You are wise. Never believe anything others say or let them affect you.

amitken: Thank you. You are kind.

sudarshan: Welcome and thank you.

transience: Thanks a ton! I feel good now. Will stick out the tongue next time.

truth fairy: Men have no hope. They are meant to be ugly, beer bellies and all. We women are born beautiful. :)

Parmanu: What would you know about weight, ignorant man, who I hear has never had to worry about eating an extra slice of pizza?

11:29 am  
Blogger Mint Chutney said...

There are very few pictures of me. Everytime I see a picture of me I am reminded of one of my favorite lines from Friends:

[Monica looks fat in an old home movie]

Monica: The camera adds ten pounds.

Chandler: So how many cameras are actually on you?

6:21 pm  
Blogger Ambuj Saxena said...

Seriously, even I don't understand why you need to tak out nail-polish when you have to do it over again; just after finishing removing it!

As for the rest of the post, I was amused by what people do to lose weight and TRY to get respect for that. Sorry, your curses won't work. I am 20 kgs underweight and never bother to check what I eat (except the hygenic part).

5:10 pm  
Blogger Ambuj Saxena said...

Please don't mind my previous comment.

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12:50 pm  

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